Here is a collection of advice from myself and other members of Embrace Fertility.
Get yourself clued up to what exactly is involved. I recommend this Fertility Network UK factsheet and official medical websites for the basics and ask your hospital for as much information as possible as all hospitals seem to have slightly different protocol. Note that what someone on a forum is experiencing may not be your treatment plan/experience. ‘What to expect before you are expecting’ has a short chapter on IVF or you could get Kate Brian’s book The Complete Guide to IVF.
Take one step at a time
Each stage of IVF should be celebrated as you “jump through the hoops” as my hubby says. Each injection is taking you one step closer on your family building journey. Be proud of yourself for completing each step. Also be remembered if treatment does not succeed. Try not to view any treatment as a failure, there is much you can learn, obviously easier said than done. Practising Mindfulness and CBT can help with this.
Overcoming any fear of needles
This was a biggy for me and EFT tapping helped tremendously. The Embrace Fertility Method online course includes a tap along EFT video for IUI/IVF injections, which includes the statements:
“Even though I have a fear of needles I love and accept myself anyway.”
“Even though it is not fair that I have to do injections in order to get pregnant, I completely forgive and accept myself anyway.”
“Even though I absolutely hate injections, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
If you have not used EFT before then check out my blog and sign up for your free tutorial video.
I experimented with using numbing cream on my belly before doing injections, you can buy this from your local chemist. It means you cannot feel the needle going in. The same can be achieved by an ice cube on your belly for 10 minutes. I recommend putting the ice cube in a sandwich bag so cold water does not run down your belly!
Get your partner involved
My husband prepared and did my injections for me. I felt happier knowing that he was in charge and I liked the fact that he was involved in the process.
Every evening after my injection I had dairy free chocolate ice cream as a reward. This was been so successful that when ever I thought ‘injection’ my mind thought ‘ice cream’! We would also watch an episode of one of our favourite comedies to get us laughing.
My down-regulation was injections first time round and sniffers the second (it depends on your hospital/clinic). I advise you have a glass of water ready following inhalation, oh and a piece of chocolate!
Assume and Affirm
Once you understand all the risks and success rates etc assume the best in a relaxed way, i.e. not demanding that it will work just being open to the possibility that it may work. This could be it! Again easier said than done, but I am a big fan of affirmations and find the following helped me:
“My body is responding perfectly to all medications.”
“My body loves these new hormones!”
“I am feeling strong, calm and confident.”
“Every day I am a step closer to meeting my baby.”
“I can do this! I am doing this!”
“This too shall pass.”
A warning note on affirmations/positive thinking, if you are stating an affirmation that makes you feel in any way anxious, upset or angry, then stop using it! For example stating “I am pregnant now” or “This IVF cycle will work” are unlikely to make you feel empowered if at the same time you are feeling anxious and desperate for it to work. Affirmations should make you feel excited, empowered and above all happy. A good starting point is:
“I wonder if I will get pregnant this cycle.”
Which opens you up to the possibility of it working and therefore can allow you to feel excited or:
“When I am pregnant I will feel…………”
Insert your own feelings and really revel in what that will feel like. For more on affirmations see Are you willing to love your future child unconditionally?
Can hypnosis increase success rates of IVF?
Yes it appears so. The Soroka medical Centre in Israel looked at the impact of hypnosis on 185 women undergoing IVF. It found that 28% of the women who had been hypnotised became pregnant compared to just 14% who had not. Check out my blog ‘Can hypnosis get you pregnant?’
Support during IVF
Anxiety, overwhelm, anger, jealousy, depression and exhaustion. Just a few of the words my clients use to describe the repercussions of infertility.
Calm, understood, clarity, comfort, hopeful are used by the end of our sessions. I offer one-to-one fertility coaching and therapy via Skype and Zoom so work with clients all over the globe. I also offer sessions from my home in South Oxfordshire. To find out more see 1 to 1 support.
The Embrace Fertility Method
Giving you the tools to enhance your fertility. Empowering you to feel calm and confident while trying to conceive and during treatment and pregnancy following infertility.
The Embrace Fertility Method doors are open now join me for my next free masterclass to find out more. Find out more here.
Boost your fertility
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Over to you
What change are you going to make today to help you be less stressed and happier on your journey to motherhood? Add a comment below or join the conversation in our online support community.
The Embrace Fertility Podcast
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Disclaimer: Embrace Fertility members and I cannot and will not take any responsibility for you. I/we are not medically trained and all information posted is purely to share personal experiences and to inspire. If you choose to make use of any of the information shared you agree to take full responsibility for your own well-being.
EFT can be learned and self applied by almost anyone, and although no side effects have been noted, if you have a diagnosed psychiatric disorder you may want to consult the advice of a skilled EFT professional and your doctor, as you would with all therapy use.