Now tell me what you want, what you really really want

Okay so you want to be pregnant and have a baby, or two or three. I really wish I could wave a magic wand and make that a reality for every single one of you. RIGHT. NOW. Sadly I don’t have magical powers but I do have other qualities that I’m told are powerful. I am a qualified cognitive hypnotherapist, an EFT practitioner and mindful fertility coach. I have also been through infertility, I’ve felt like my heart has been ripped out again and again, I’ve hit rock bottom following failed treatment and I’ve suffered the blow of miscarriage.

My innermost feelings

I set up Embrace Fertility while going through this sh*t and shared my innermost feelings through my blog. (If you are new to the site then check out the Inspiration page and keep scrolling down for blogs on a whole host of subjects including IVF, jealousy, friends having babies, finding joyhow to cope with miscarriage and more.)

I set the intention to be happy again

I was doing everything I could think of to improve my fertility, acupuncture, herbs, diet changes but the fact that I wasn’t able to get pregnant was sending me deeper and deeper into depression. My Doctor offered me antidepressants or the chance to see a mindful fertility coach. I knew that the depression was stemming from my repetitive negative thinking rather than a chemical imbalance so I decided to address that thinking with the help of the mindfulness coach.
I threw myself into the practice and secretly wanted this to be the solution and pregnancy to come easily. But instead of a baby I found myself again and set the intention to get happy. Through my sessions with Carla I brought new clarity to my thinking and the way I was choosing to live my life. I made the huge decision to leave my career in furniture design and I retrained in the mindbody therapies that were helping me to be the happiest I had ever been even though I was still trying to conceive. I’m writing this post to make you aware that by setting intentions for yourself alongside the biggy of ” I want a baby” can make you feel more in control of your life when I imagine it feels completely out of control at times.

So what else do you want?

Perhaps you want to feel less stressed, happier, healthier, more connected to your partner. Set an intention now for what you would like to bring into your life. Write it down and then write down three things you are going to do to help move you towards this goal. For example if your intention is to feel less stressed and you could set the following three goals:
  • I intend to practice mindful meditation every day for at least 10 minutes.
  • I will assess my lifestyle and how I could bring more self care into my daily routine.
  • I will spend time each week focusing on clearing negative repetitive thinking by using emotional freedom technique (EFT).

Set intentions which are for you rather than with the exclusive aim of getting pregnant. For example continue with acupuncture if it makes the feel good rather than solely to boost your fertility. The fantastic side-effect of doing this as it has been proven that the more relaxed and happier you are the more fertile you are! Love it! Read more about that here.

Help along the way

Anxiety, overwhelm, anger, jealousy, depression and exhaustion. Just a few of the words I used to describe the repercussions of infertility I was experiencing before I discovered the mindbody techniques that allowed me to find peace of mind on my own fertility journey. (I now have a 14-month-old son conceived naturally after four rounds of treatment and a miscarriage – read my story here.) For me having the support of Carla and that time every week to focus solely on me and what was going on in my mind was key to me coming through the depression. If you would like dedicated support to move you towards your goals, including the one of becoming a mother then I invite you to take me up on my offer of a free 30 minute consultation to discuss how working one-to-one with fertility specialist might be just what you need right now.

Let me know when would be the best time to ring you or chat on skype.

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How can working with a fertility coach support your journey to parenthood?

  • Reduce stress, control anxiety and increase feelings of calm
  • Enhance your fertility – balancing hormone fluctuations
  • Support lifestyle changes such as weight loss or weight gain
  • Support during fertility treatment (IUI, IVF, ICSI, IMSI)
    • Overcome fear of needles, hospital procedures
    • Enter treatment feeling empowered and calm
    • Support during your two week wait
  • Restore your self-esteem and trust in your body
  • Develop resilience and coping techniques
  • Clear fears of pregnancy, miscarriage, birth and parenthood
  • Offering a safe space to work through feelings of grief
  • Overcoming jealousy and anger
  • Discuss concerns about your relationships – with partner, friends or family
  • Pain management and lifestyle changes for conditions such as endometriosis
  • And most importantly getting happy while trying to get pregnant!

To book your free 30 minute consultation and discuss how I can support you. Let me know when would be the best time to ring you.

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My qualifications and governing bodies:

I trained in cognitive hypnotherapy with Trevor Silvester the founder of this revolutionary new therapy at the Quest Institute London. I have a diploma in cognitive hypnotherapy, I am registered with the National Council for hypnotherapy and have ongoing supervision as part of the Quest network. I am a certified practitioner of neuro linguistic programming and I completed my emotional freedom technique (EFT) practitioner training in September 2013 with master practitioners Emma Roberts and Sue Beer who contributed to the book ‘The Babymaking Bible’.

Get the support you need

I left it far too long before seeking help and really hit rock bottom before getting the support I desperately needed. My hope is that you find Embrace Fertility and really make use of all of the support available before getting as low as I did. Check out this blog “How can I support you?” for all of the support available via Embrace Fertility.

Over to you

What do you really want on top of a baby? What intentions are you going to set for yourself? Leave a comment below or come and join the conversation within our fertility support community.

First time visiting Embrace Fertility?

I have created a FREE Fertility Support Pack to get you started with the mindbody techniques I share. It includes an hour-long introduction to mindfulness, a 20 minute emotional freedom technique video tutorial, a 5 minute meditation and an e-book that includes 10 easy ways to bring mindfulness into your day. For your free pack sign-up.

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