Infertility and Depression 2 for the price of 1

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The dictionary definition of infertile is:

1. Absent or diminished fertility.
2. The persistent inability to conceive a child.

And (part of) the dictionary definition of depression is:

1. A feeling of being extremely unhappy.
2. A condition in which a person is so unhappy they cannot live a normal life.
3. An area, which has sunk below its surroundings; a hollow.

I left that last description in as I think that sums up the feeling of infertility more than any of the others, it is a feeling of emptiness.

Depression is a very strong word, but also one that is overused. How many of us have had a bad day and used the phrase “I am so depressed”? The ironic thing is that once you might actually be suffering from the effects of depression, you are highly unlikely to ever use that phrase.

The signs of depression

Signs of depression include; feeling anxious, agitated or worried, feeling like you are on the edge of tears, losing interest in friends, family and your favourite things, loss of self-confidence, being unable to concentrate on daily tasks and activities, feeling tired all the time and reduced interest in sex. The last one being particularly helpful at this time in your life!

Infertility sucks all of the joy and colour out of life and due to the fact that many couples do not tell their friends and family that are trying to conceive can mean that they are very isolated.

While I hate labels and both the words infertile and depression are depressing enough in their own right, realising that these feelings are perfectly normal, you are in no way alone in feeling like this and that there is a huge amount you can do to help yourself is the first step to positive change in your life.

The mindbody link

While I was trying to conceive and going through fertility treatments I spent a great deal of time researching and learning about the link between the mind and the body. The majority of sources all indicate that the same four techniques can be used to increase happiness and balance emotional and physical health; therefore increasing fertility.

1. Mindfulness
2. Gratitude
3. Connection
4. Intention

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a mind-body approach to well-being that can help you change the way you think about experiences and reduce stress and anxiety. It combines techniques like meditation, breathing exercises and stretching with elements of cognitive therapy to help break negative thought patterns.

Gratitude

Being grateful for what you have is so simple but can easily be forgotten when your life is not going to plan. Keeping a gratitude journal and listing five things you are grateful for every evening really does make a difference to how you view your life. You can start with the big things like your partner and family and then keep adding to the journal with anything and everything you are grateful for in life. On my list tonight will be Waitrose gluten-free brownies. Perfection!

Connection

Connection with others is what many believe to be what life is all about. I am blessed with the support of my fantastic husband, amazing friends and loving family, but while going through infertility I still needed support and advice from those who could really relate to what I was going through. I built up my own support team to include; an acupuncturist, a herbalist, a mindfulness coach and the Infertility Network UK, a fantastic charity that provides advice, information and support. On the back of this I set up Embrace Fertility to share what I am learning and to create a support community. Please do join us if this blog resonates with you.

Intention

Intention means deciding what you want and more importantly why you want it, setting realistic goals and working towards them in a consistent manner. I talked last week about the benefit of setting intentions in my blog ‘Tell me what you want what you really really want’.

George’s marvellous medicine

If being less stressed and happier are among your intentions then you would benefit from my Embrace 10 week course which is a thorough explanation and experience of the tools and techniques that completely revolutionised my life. You can take the foundation course for free now. The course is a George’s marvellous medicine blend of mindfulness, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), evolutionary psychology, positive psychology, hypnosis and visualisation.

Course intentions

  • Learn to combat anxiety and negative thinking to allow you to relax and free your mind.
  • Learn how to love and trust your body.
  • Access your inner strength and build your resilience.
  • Connect with others and forge new friendships with people in a similar situation to yourself.
  • Recapture the excitement of when you first decided to try for a baby.
  • Prepare for your next step be that a lifestyle change, a treatment option or pregnancy itself.
  • Build a toolkit to help you throughout your journey, to combat jealousy, anger, anxiety and fear.
  • Coaching for all areas of your life.
  • Develop patience, trust in yourself and your ability to handle anything in your life.
  • Embrace your journey to parenthood.

Embrace Foundation Course – TAKE THIS WEEK FOR FREE

  • Thoughts are not facts yet our thinking shapes our reality
  • How trying to ‘stay positive’ may be the root of anxiety and even unhappiness
  • Why we need emotions both positive and negative
  • How to free ourselves from the negative once we understand the intention behind them and allow our natural positivity to surface

An hours worth of content with video, MP3 and ebook on the subject of how our thinking affects every area of our lives. In your FREE fertility support pack (sign-up to receive) I discussed how with mindfulness and CBT we can step back from our thoughts and observe them. In this session I expand on this and explain how we can change our thinking and therefore our lives.

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Get the support you need

I left it far too long before seeking help and really hit rock bottom before getting the support I desperately needed. My hope is that you find Embrace Fertility and really make use of all of the support available before getting as low as I did. Check out this blog “How can I support you?” for all of the support available via Embrace Fertility.

Over to you

What do you really want on top of a baby? What intentions are you going to set for yourself? Leave a comment below or come and join the conversation within our fertility support community.

First time visiting Embrace Fertility?

I have created a FREE Fertility Support Pack to get you started with the mindbody techniques I share. It includes an hour-long introduction to mindfulness, a 20 minute emotional freedom technique video tutorial, a 5 minute meditation and an e-book that includes 10 easy ways to bring mindfulness into your day. For your free pack sign-up.

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