A letter to all midwives

A letter to all midwives

At 40 weeks pregnant with my first baby I had an appointment with a new midwife. As usual I really enjoyed my appointment and got on well with the midwife. However a small part of our conversation played on my mind, not just played on my mind but literary replayed in my mind over and over again.

We were discussing Braxton Hicks contractions and how the tightening of my belly and the period like aches I was experiencing were my uterus getting ready for labour. I was then informed that contractions would be nothing like this at all, that the contractions would become more and more painful and I would become more and more distressed as they increase in frequency.

I let one ‘distressed’ pass but on the third “You will become more distressed” in a matter of minutes I stopped her and asked her if all of her patients became distressed during labour. She replied no of course not. I pointed out that it had taken me 4 years to conceive and the last emotion I imagined feeling on the day I would finally get hold my baby was distressed.

Distressed is an incredibly emotive word

Distressed is an incredibly emotive word meaning: “Suffering from extreme anxiety, sorrow, or pain.” Even if I personally was going to experience contractions as painful (many women do not, and as it turned out I birthed drug and pain-free) why would she expect me to feel anxiety or sorrow at the fact that my baby was on his or her way?

Replacing fear with excitment

Hypnobirthing in essence is simply replacing any fears we have of childbirth; fear of the physical sensations, fear of something going wrong, fear of the unknown, with the knowledge that our bodies are designed to give birth. If a woman goes into labour and immediately feels anxious her body releases adrenaline, her muscles tense up and she is a lot more likely to experience contractions as painful.

However if she feels empowered and excited as her labour begins, focuses on her breathing and allows her body to do what it needs to do her body will release endorphins and oxytocin those wonderful hormones that act like natural tranquillisers in the body, reducing the sensations of the contractions.

It is possible to birth without pain, and while this is not the aim of hypnobirthing (the aim being to allow women to learn and practice techniques to enable them to feel empowered, calm and confident during pregnancy and birth.) It does open your eyes to just how dysfunctional our view of childbirth has become that we assume that the majority of women will experience excruciating pain and be full of anxiety and fear while birthing.

Your words are powerful choose them wisely

So I ask you to choose your words wisely, you are in a position of authority and your words are highly influential throughout pregnancy but even more so just before a woman is about to experience childbirth for the first time. Using language such as:

“You will become more and more distressed.”

“The contractions will become more painful.”

“When you feel unable to cope.”

Are all direct suggestions to a woman’s conscious and unconscious minds. Even if like me that woman has chosen to view birth from a different perspective those suggestions are still powerful and set up camp in our minds.

Do you want to disempower or empower?

Here are some simple suggestions of how you can choose to use language to empower the women in your care, whilst still being professional and realistic in the expectations raised.

A letter for your midwife

So many midwifes are now trained in hypnobirthing and the power of language which is fantastic. You can help spread the word, download a PDF version of this blog to print and give to your midwife here.
The first week of my online confident childbirth course is FREE I invite all midwives to take a look at www.embracebumptobaby.co.uk. Access 4 videos, an MP3 and ebook that will talk more about how hypnobirthing and mindfulness can prepare women for all types of birth including induction and cesarean.
*Thank you to Erling A for photograph of midwives.

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